Photographing Children: Put The Camera Down, and Step Away From The Baby
Written: April 22nd, 2010
This article is filed in the Taking Better Photographs category
Funny concept for a photographer to write about. But the truth is that sometimes, you have to stop taking pictures. My girls have been in front of the camera since the moment they were born. After 8 and 10 years of seeing dad with the camera pointing at them, they can “strike a pose” on command at a moments’ notice. I think both my daughters might actually think my camera is a part of my face. But for those who are just starting to explore a lifestyle of photographing your children, and even for those in my position, sometimes you just need to give them a break. Taking a break will give you much better photos because your kids won’t just run away from that big black box which mom or dad is pointing at them again.
You may have heard it said before that taking too many pictures prevents us from savoring the precious moments in life. I absolutely could not disagree more. If there is a beautiful moment and I miss documenting it, it actually ruins the experience for me. Good photography stitches the seams in time and enhances a memory. I have a couple large black and white prints of our two girls hanging on our living room wall that were taken 5 years ago. I can still remember the day we shot those images, the girls laughs, their 3 and 5 year-old ideas for how to pose, and the stop for ice cream on the way home from the studio. But you have to get to the point where you can take photos and still be engrossed in the moment. This comes with time and practice. After 20+ years of actively doing photography, my camera is now just an extension of my eye and I can even shoot in manual mode without much thinking. And I even sometimes break the sacred unwritten law of professional photographers and just shoot in automatic mode when I don’t want to spend time thinking about lighting and camera settings and would rather experience the precious and rare moment where my kids are actually being nice to each other.
For those whose children are accustomed to our photographing antics and the lengths we go to capture “the moment”, the camera can actually be fun for them. Both my girls love thinking of things to do for me to photograph. And I find that for every few shots they make up, they’ll let me tell them what to do for another shot, so it’s a total win-win.
When do I know that it’s OK to put my camera down? When we’re going somewhere I’ve already photographed a zillion times, when I know I’m not in a particularly patient mood, or when I know that the girls need the whole me engrossed in their activity and not the me with a camera. In our obsession to photograph their every breath, we can often become selfish and ignore their needs or desires.
When photographing client’s kids who don’t know me, I’ve come across many a child who is terrified of my camera. Once, I had a mom even tell me that the child’s father was a hobby photographer. Figures. Poor kid probably had it “up-to-here” with picture taking and he really, truly was frightened. Even though I am being paid for my time, I sometimes have to explain that we need to take a break. I’ve even put my camera away, and just sat on the studio floor with the child to let him know I’m “OK” and won’t hurt him with the big black box in front of my face.
Sometimes, you just have to know when to give them a break and leave your camera alone. Above all else, make sure the memories you are capturing are good ones.





